Five things I learnt after being diagnosed with cancer three weeks after my mum died from the same disease by Emma-Louise McAuley.

By Emma-Louise McAuley   who was diagnosed with breast cancer three weeks after her mum died from the same disease

By Emma-Louise McAuley
who was diagnosed with breast cancer three weeks after her mum died from the same disease

  1. Death and dying aren’t the same thing but they both suck.

  2. Grief is messy! You don’t follow five stages linearly and it can start before death. There’s a lot of feels and tear-soaked tissues.

  3. Death and grief are very personal so there is no prescribed way of dealing with them but talking can help everyone involved (voice volume and amount of words may vary, crying optional). We keep the spirit of the person alive when we talk about them when their body dies.

  4. No matter what you do, you will never be fully prepared or ready for your own or someone else’s death.

  5. Grief is pain, physical and mental. It weighs on you, but there will be days when it is lighter and you can find happiness again. Tomorrow will be kinder.

Emma Louise McAuley

About Emma-Louise McAuley
Emma-Louise McAuley was 24 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer only three weeks after her mum died from the same disease. She uses all that she learnt while caring for her mum during her own cancer trek to support others through her blog, delightfully depressing.
She’s currently trying to rebuild her life in East London with her dog, Prudie.  You can follow Emma-Louise on
Instagram.