1. Losing someone young may not be common but it's more normal than you realise, and you are not weird or different.
2. You will survive all those big life moments that are still to come without them. It will be sad and difficult to grow up without that significant person, but you have an amazing support network around you who will be there for your graduation, first job, the wedding day, childbirths, etc.
3. There is no "right" way to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you how to do it, where to do it, when to do it - grieving is unique for everyone and you must take it one step at a time and make sure you grieve as you.
4. Finding other people your own age who have been bereaved will really help. They can chat to you, cry with you, and laugh at all your terrible jokes about death that make other people feel really awkward.
5. You are amazing and you have so much to live for. There will be many difficult days to come, but there are also so many amazing memories too. Talk to someone when you're not feeling great, and look forward to an exciting, bright future.
About Beth Rowland
Beth Rowland’s Mum died when she was 20 years old, and the devastation of her death affects every second of her life. She set up Let’s Talk About Loss to try to overcome the barriers of talking about losing a loved one – a safe space for 16 to 30 year olds to talk about loss with other people who will understand.