Allow yourself plenty of time. We suggest taking at least a year before choosing an epitaph - it allows your emotions to settle a little and you’ll find you will change your ideas over time.
Keep it uplifting – remember the epitaph will be there for generations to come. Try to choose something that celebrates your loved one’s life.
Visit other gravestones for inspiration, as well as literature, poetry and lyrics.
Think about who the epitaph is speaking to - it is addressed to the public or a specific person?
Less is more - a short epitaph can be just as moving as a very long one. Sometimes simply the words “So Loved” can be all you need.
About Fergus Wessel
Fergus Wessel runs Stoneletters Studio, which specialises in fine, hand-carved headstones. He’s passionate about headstones, and campaigns to spread awareness of the comfort and healing that a memorial can bring to those who are bereaved. He’s in the process of writing a book about choosing a headstone to raise money for Maggie's Centre, Oxford.